Transient Thoughts 1/13/2015

wdh1010Two hearts pass in the night and they both shine with the same light
They become magnetized and memorized by the love they both share.  Though they are so different in their origins and how they view life they are so alike in what they want and need. They both beat with desire for the closeness and togetherness they now have found in one another.

Neither heart is perfect nor is either of them able to be complete without the other. Once they learn to play off of each others strengths they will have little problems with their weaknesses. They balance one another out and as one they shall walk though life. But if they fail to embrace one another unconditionally they shall fall apart and suffer the fate of many hearts whom came before them.

If two hearts learn to beat as one they become an unstoppable force of love. And one of the greatest powers in this world is love.

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Random Reflections 12/30/2014

IMG_1078fbYet another year is near its end, with new years around the corner its time to begin thinking about the year we just lived through. Time for retrospection and self-evaluation. Did we make any changes in our behavior or have we grown mentally, emotionally or even spiritually. What good qualities have we embraced this year and which bad habits or qualities have we let go of.

Do not ponder on those things long, what is more important is which qualities are you going to embrace and/or let go of this coming year. Self development and improvement is one of the most important things in life. Far as which qualities are good or bad is more of  personal choice, we all have different standards and views when it comes to such things. I myself look at them in the manner that if something I do or say hurts someone else or even myself then I consider it a negative quality that I need to let go of.  Of course the better qualities are the ones that enrich either my life or the life of others in some small way.

So this new years take a good look at yourself and evaluate your life and set yourself on a path to self-development and improvement. For new years is all about moving forward and letting go of the past through retrospection and self-improvement.

I wish each and ever one of you a very happy and productive new year.

Ray Barbier

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Random Reflections–12/20/2014

014 (2)I am but a man, I have many faults and I am forever learning and changing. I try to interact with others in the most amiable manner as I can. I do get angry, but usually it is short-lived and forgiveness of others comes easy for me most of the time. Most of the time I wander around life in a lost and unorganized state of mind. The rest of the time I gain clarity only long enough to write down some random thoughts. I share what I feel and think with the world so that a piece of who I am will be recorded in hopes I will not be forgotten when I am gone.

I don’t claim to be right in my ideals , thoughts or assumptions. I only claim that what I write is how I feel and how I see things in this world.. I hope that what I share helps someone else on their journey through life. I am just a silly middle-aged man with a heart full of holes from the experiences I have been blessed to experience. Though they are holes they hold memories and lessons that I hold dear. Life isn’t always a picnic but it is always a feast one should partake in.

I believe in experiencing life with an open heart and with anticipation of what lies around the next bend. One shouldn’t fear what is to come, it will be what it shall be so just enjoy the ride. Always remember you are not on this journey of life alone, we share this world and all that it has to offer with other people and a vast variety of other life forms. We should respect our fellow travelers and enjoy their company when we are blessed with their companionship..


I try to be a caring and compassionate person, but by being so open and loving one does tend to get hurt much easier. Even though I get hurt easy I will not close my heart.

Ray Barbier

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I am but a traveller , a man on a journey on the path of life

018I am but a traveller , a man on a journey on the path of life. I have been many places I wish I could had avoided and a few I was glad to had visited. I had spent many years just wandering in search of who and what I am. Many have travelled beside me through out the years but mainly I have walked alone. This journey I am on is both one that is in the world around me and that world that exists within me. The sensations of the five senses along with the minds interpretation of the world around me can be both inspiring and distracting to my progress along the path of life.

Many things I have learned during my journey, such things as the difference between selfish lust and the benevolent and unselfish  nature of love. How the focus on the separation of ones self is what sows the seeds of greed,lust,hate and the illusion of elitism. Though we do walk separate and think independently of each other we are a part of a larger organism or life force. Some call this other life-force God, though there is many names for it throughout history. According to most religions our life force the soul or spirit comes from God, by Christian belief God breathed the breath of life into us and made us in his image. Life came from one source and in the end it shall return to that force in one way or another.

Science states that energy is neither created nor destroyed, so does this mean the chemical energy within our body and brain continue on in one form or another? Well yes, can we say that our consciousness continues on afterwards? By the current science we have it is not possible to answer that question with a definite and absolute answer.  Science and spirituality and/or religion probably will always be at odds since on deals in the physical universe and the other in the unseen and non physical.  Though science has at least brought us to the understanding that if God is of energy then he was not created not can he be destroyed. Of course this is conjecture since we really only can guess about things when it comes to God.

I continue on my path of life as a humble traveller who seeks to know himself better and the world both around him and within his conscious self. I do not claim to be right in my thoughts, beliefs and assumptions nor do I claim to be wise in any fashion. I only claim that I am walking this path to learn as well as share this experience we call life.


Ray Barbier

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Tend to your own grass

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The Grass does always seem greener on the other side of the fence, the truth is that if it is greener on the other side of the fence is because you have not maintained your own yard. Instead of being a fence jumper, we should be taking care of the lawn we have been given. If we pull the weeds and all the crab grass along with fertilizing and watering our lawn it will become the greener of the  grasses.

Tend to your own grass, learn to make what you have been blessed with the lawn you always dreamed of. With anything in life it takes hard work to have the better things in life. Rarely will good things come out of lack of effort.

Ray Barbier.

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far easier to ignore and be blind

homeless-youthSo many  people in need in our world and so little reason they should be. There is plenty of food and clean water to go around if it isn’t wasted. I think we as a society have grown somewhat complacent and believe our governments are responsible for the well-being of those in need. The fact is each and every one of us are responsible for the wellbeing of ourselves and others. Very little would we have to sacrifice to make another persons life better. Sometimes its just a conversation, an opportunity to provide for themselves or just a simple meal for someone who is hungry. Though throwing money at a problem may treat the symptom but it does not cure the disease.

481243_518998361486259_1417117953_nPOOR-SLOB-Even though there are those that take advantage of the system per se, many are truly willing to work and be a productive part of society. Those whom take advantage of the system should be rooted out and those willing to better themselves should become the main focus. Far as those unable to work or take care of themselves , they are the responsibility of the community in whole.  Some of those in need could be trained and put in charge of taking care of those whom need assistance and others trained to be better suited for a new career as well.

olympics_vancouver_homeless-450x279There are so many of us whom can lend a helping hand to our brothers and sisters who don’t and others decide to turn a blind eye to the truth all around them. Its far easier to ignore and be blind to the suffering of others than face the truth of how many are in need right here in our own country as well in all the nations of the world.We all need to wake up and open our eyes to the needs of our  brothers and sisters. If we all just gave 5 minutes each a day to help others it would change a lot, imagine if we all gave an hour. Just remember it only takes one bad decision or major life event to turn your happy and secure life into a homeless and hungry one.

We all are brothers and sisters in this lifetime we live, we don’t always have to agree or even get along. We just need to have compassion, love and understanding towards each other and even ourselves.

Raymond  Barbier

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Encouraging your Discouraged Friend

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There would be time that someone would call you, ask for your help and encouragement. He/she would entail every detail to you and he/she just can’t hold the heaviness of his/her heart and cry it out. And you don’t have any idea how to ease that pain. Only being emphatic is the  closest way to atleast carry off the burden. All you could do is to listen to his/her story and tap his/her back and share an undying encouragement.

It’s not easy to see someone in trouble especially if he/she is close to your heart. But be with him/her in his/her journey. Don’t leave him/her in such a time he/she needs someone like you who’ll remind him/her of what he/she had gone through over the past years.
If you have a friend who needs you now, don’t give up on him/her. Help him/her to rise up above on his/her…

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Random thoughts 8-7-2014

IMG_1375Life is but a short walk through a garden, so enjoy the view and be kind to the other visitors. We all have been blessed with a chance to experience life, yet many of us do not realize the value of this gift and there are those they don’t recognize the rights of others to live. Such a shame that this late in the game we still have to deal with fear,hate and inequality. With all our advances in the sciences and in education we still are yet  immature emotionally or lack the mental capacity to overcome our fear of differences and the unknown.

Life is short, why do we waste so much time fighting over land and resources that belong to all living things not just one person or nation. I know we need the governmental structures so to keep order, but I can not see why we can not work together for the common good. We allow greed and lust  of power to control our decisions and our hearts way too much. We need to embrace equality,compassion and try to see the whole picture instead of living focused only on our little bubble.

Let us all put our differences aside and work together for the common good of every living thing. Humanity when it works together can be a very creative and unstoppable force.

Ray Barbier

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Random Thoughts on Stereotypes and Relationships.

005The stereotypes society has created for male and female serve a purpose but in the end cause more conflicts within relationships and create so misconceptions bout both sexes. Not all of us fit into what the norm sees as perfect men or women. Humans are diverse and people are not always going to go by the textbook when it comes to their personalities and traits. We come in all shapes, colors and flavors so to speak, the different life experiences we each have helps mold us into the person we are today and what we may become later in life.

So many relationships go bad because of preconceived ideals of what one mate or the other is supposed to be like. We all have this illusive image of what a perfect mate and relationship is supposed to be like and it tends to become as a monkey wrench in the works of love.  Luckily most of the time our mate has some of the traits we wanted in a partner or we wouldn’t have found them attractive, but we must learn to accept the traits within them that we don’t enjoy as much as long as they are not unacceptable ones like  infidelity and abuse. We should forgive our partner for their mistakes, but we are not supposed to allow them to repeatedly hurt us with such actions.

We must throw away our perfect mate ideals and mentality because a mate is only as perfect as you wish to see them as. Love them for the things within them that brings you happiness and try to forgive and tolerate the things that don’t really thrill you about them. Just remember there are many things about yourself that your mate must love and tolerate as well.  Usually in time both mates change and learn to find the common ground between them and work together in harmony if they accept each other as is and not try to mold one another into people that they are not meant to be..

Love relationships are a lot like friendships, you learn to love your true friends for who and what they are for good or ill and they learn to love you in the same way.. So in love it’s the same thing just you have a lot more complications such as living with each other all the time and the physical aspects of such relationships.  But for a love relationship to last there has to be a friendship within it as well, without the friendship all is there is lust or physical attraction and that never lasts for long. So try to get to know your mate and keep the friendship alive within the relationship.

Ray Barbier.


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Time to step away from the character I have played

rayrayd_edited-1To much self, not enough of everybody else. Too much of ego for most of us to let go. Me, myself and I are in the way and it makes me blind. Blind of the truth around me and the connection we all have to everything. Too much worry, anger and paranoia within the self-centered man I seem to be and its time to put him aside for the  person who I truly am.

Time to return to who I was as a child, to the person I am hidden beneath the conditioning of society and the scars of life. Remember the lessons learned and let go of the pain and confusion we accumulated through the years. Too much mental and emotional garbage we have collected through life experiences.  Time to empty my inner recycle bin and go about my way free of such useless and painful thoughts and/or emotions. Free of such things.

Each morning I awake is but a new blank page for me to fill with my life’s journey, yet another day to grow and change. The pages written on the days prior are but the history of which choices I made and directions I have taken. Though I can not change where I have been or what I have done I still can change direction and my destination.

Time to return to who I was meant to be and let go of the egotistical side of me. Time to become who I was meant to be and not what this world has tried to make me into. Time to change my direction and my desired destination. Time to set Goals that are true to who I am and not those that society dictates is normal and desirable. Time to let go of what I am expected to be by others and be who I truly am.

Time to be who God created me to be and time to step away from the character I have played in this worlds masquerade. Time to be set free, time to accept what has been given to me.

 We spend so much time trying to be what others expect us to be we lose the person we truly are. Sometimes we seek out the treasures of this world forgetting where or true treasures lay.

Ray Barbier

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