Sometimes I think our brain needs a reset button or ctrl-alt-del keys, a reboot of ourselves to the basic core of who we are would be good from time to time. I guess our brain becomes cluttered with old and useless thoughts and memories that do nothing but become rod blocks to moving forward in life. Remembering the past is good for it gives you a reference point as well as examples of both good choices and wrong ones. You experiences of the past are great teachers but are not meant to be anything much more than that. Living in the past is not a good thing for it keeps your mind from focusing on the things at hand. For today is the most important time in your life, not yesterday or even tomorrow holds more importance than today. Learn from the past, Live for today and be open to all the possibilities of tomorrow.
Sift, sort and peel away the layers until you find the real you deep within. Be yourself and do not allow anyone or anything to change who you are. We all are unique, being who we are and striving to achieve our true potential is one of the key goals of life. There are many opposing forces out there that will try and keep you from that goal, they are there not to stop you but to challenge you. They are roadblocks set there for you to overcome and to help strengthen your core character. Once you realize that you are capable of overcoming the roadblocks in your life they become a little less scary to face. One of the biggest challenges to face I have found to be hard is to face is self doubt. If you have little if no confidence in yourself it makes dealing with the challenges of life very difficult and sometimes almost impossible to overcome.
Having low self-esteem is a very difficult roadblock to overcome, being the enemy here is your own self it makes it a difficult battle for sure. The thing is, you are the only one who can heal the wounds that help create the low self-esteem and you are the only one holding on to the things that fuel such a negative self image. Others may have contributed to building this roadblock but only you can be the demolition crew that can destroy it in the end. Meditating on the serenity prayer can help a lot when dealing with low self-esteem, for it helps you realize there are things you can change and others you can not.
THE SERENITY PRAYER
“God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Keep Faith in God, Have faith in yourself and walk with love as your guide.
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With the new year just around the corner it is time to look back on the years past.
Look back on the things that were temporary and those that were meant to last.
Remember both the good and bad that had crossed your path though the year.
Reflect upon all the lessons learned and be positive while overcoming you fear.
Put the past behind you and look forward to what is yet to come your way.
Live for the moment and seize the moment while living fully for today.
Forgive and forget so you can move on into the future burden free.
Be yourself and embrace the full potential of who you are meant to be.
I wish everyone a Happy and Prosperous New year
Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas and To all a Wonderful New Year
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One of the greatest misconceptions in relationships is that you basically own your partner. If this were the case then your partner would also own you and therefore there would be a great struggle for dominance and control. The reality is that you have joined into a contractual partnership where you maintain your individual rights and control, just you have chose to make it a joined effort to manage life. Love was the binding agent but respect and equal decision making rights are the foundation a relationship should be built on. One must realize even though you are like one in a relationship that you must also maintain your individuality or there will be grief for one side if not both. Both of you were individuals before the union and should remain so after the union. Instead of trying to dominate, control or own one another we should learn to pull from each other strengths and help each other on our weaknesses. Respect is one of the greatest issues in relationships of all types, without respect for one another and for yourself the partnership usually turns into a battle for dominance if not just a chaotic battle of the wills. Usually there is a more dominate partner and a more passive partner in a good relationship, the passive partner usually chooses to be passive out of respect and love for the dominant one. This is due to the fact every relationship, family and even business has to have a leader of sorts to keep it balanced and functioning. Being the passive partner does not mean you give up your rights or your power in the relationship, it just means you choose to put faith in the abilities of the dominant partner. You still have power to make the decisions and will probably make as many if not more than the dominant one. The role of leader, head of house is more or a illusion than a reality, but it does keep order and also gives each partner roles to fulfill.
Once you realize that you and your partner are equals and choose each a role to play then the stage is set for a good relationship. Me time is also a important part of relationships and each partner needs a small amount of me time to keep things running smooth. Me time is just some time for both partners to put away their roles and just be themselves. Affection and sex are also an important part of relationships and usually can be either the glue that binds or the hammer that breaks a relationship. Usually the biggest problem is one partner is more insecure than the other in a relationship so they desire more affection and sex to confirm they are still wanted by their partner. The other partner is usually very secure in both themselves and the relationship so sex and affection seems less important, this creates a vacuum or void between the two partners. Sometimes the neediness of one partner can push the other away, This is not healthy for a relationship and can cause a great divide between the two partners. This is where both good communication and the understanding that both sides have needs and wants that have to be fulfilled comes into play. Regardless of insecurity or not both partners need to be affectionate and occasionally have sex to keep the bond between them strong and also to reassure each other that they are needed and wanted. When a partner seems to not want sex and affection it is not the desire that is missing it is more that they either feel unwanted, disrespected or not needed in the relationship. Without the feelings of being wanted,needed and respected a person starts to create a negative self image and that usually kills their desire for affection and so on. There is also physical and mental issues that effect the desire in a partner but they shouldn’t completely destroy your love and affection for each other. In the case of physical and mental issues both sides should have understanding of the causes as well as compassion for one another.
Together time is also an important part of a healthy relationship, this is time set aside for both partners to enjoy each others company in either a hobby, recreation or just talking. This is when and how partners strengthen their bonds beyond the bedroom. The together time is crucial and without it partners may drift apart emotionally, mentally and eventually physically. During together time you must set all problems and personal issues aside, this is the time to appreciate each other and enjoy each others company not a time to battle, bicker or settle issues. The main thing to remember is you joined with your partner in the beginning because you did like and enjoyed their company. They had characteristic that you found to be pleasant and they too found many things about you as pleasant if not wonderful. No one person can be perfect not can they always make you happy but in general they bring happiness to you if you don’t allow their mistakes or shortcomings be your main focus. To home in on only the bad in your partner is not healthy nor a natural mental process. To only focus on the bad is to be a slave to your own hate or mistrust. Forgiveness and the realization that your partner is only human is the right mindset to try and maintain.
Some of the Keys to a Good Relationship
Respect for each other and your self
Affection and sex
Well Enough of my Babbling
Peace and Love be your Guides in Life
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The path of love and the path of peace run parallel and are like two lovers walking the path of life. One can not Thrive without the other, for love needs peace to flourish and peace can not be found without love being the sower of the seed. For love spreads the seeds of understanding, peace and life itself. Love creates from its own self, it is the source of life and the healer of sickness. True love can not be destroyed only transformed and it will not be denied. Love is selfless yet it is of the self, it has no boundaries and it knows no prejudice. Love embraces every walk of life and cares not of who or what one may be.
Love is the source as well as the prize set before us all. To know love and to be of love is the ultimate goal of mankind. Though Mankind is yet young and childish and is blind to love’s greatness. Some are even blind to love’s existence and they cling onto a selfish and aimless path in life. So try and seek out love when you can ,share love with everyone who you may meet and let love be your guide on life’s path. For the more you love the more you will be loved back.
Peace And Love to All
- We always have a choice…. (thbloom.wordpress.com)
- The meaning of a smile (psychologytoday.com)
- Three Notes About True Love (socyberty.com)
- My Path (goddesslisasmonastary.wordpress.com)
- Love is a Drug (socyberty.com)
The Holiday season is upon us, Thanksgiving has passed but Christmas is just around the corner. We gave thanks for the physical things we have on thanksgiving now Christmas is for us to give thanks for the spiritual salvation and for the grace we have received. It is also a time of celebrating family and friends. Those we love and a sometimes we take for granted are shown love and appreciation on Christmas. We should always celebrate the gifts of love, compassion, companionship and family on Christmas along with the gift of our savior and his message.
Though through the years Christmas has mainly became a materialistic and commercially dominated holiday it still is the church appointed day to celebrate the birth and gift of Jesus Christ. Jesus taught forgiveness, unconditional love and compassion along with the way of peace. He brought those messages along with the message of salvation to Jew,Gentile,Rich,Poor,Powerful,weak, meek and every living soul on gods green earth.
So Love without condition, forgive without hesitation and follow a path of peace.
Merry Christmas to all
There is a hole in my soul, Where it came from I do not know.
It lets the sun shine through and the rain to come in.
It never has ever filled up or closed since it first came into being.
Is it a piece of who I am that was lost or ripped away though the years?
Is it just the lack of self awareness or self identity ?
There is a hole in my soul, it is a part of what makes me whole.
It makes me seek out my true self and my purpose in life.
Is it really even a hole or is it just the lack of light?
Is it something missing in my life or just a part of me I forgot?
The hole is a part of the whole, without it I wouldn’t be inspired to grow.
The hole is who I long to become as well as what I wished I never was.
The hole is my conscience, guide, inner child and the hidden light within.
The hole is a reminder that I am yet a child in the scheme of life itself.
Well enough of my babbling
Peace, Raymond Barbier
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Does it really matter that Christ wasn’t born on Dec 25th? The fact it was a birthday for a roman solar deity and the end of their festival called Saturnalia ? Well for the most part I do not believe it matters much that the date was set on the date of several ancient pagan festivals and holidays. This was done in an attempt to sway the pagans over to Christianity and it succeeded but it also brought some of the pagan traditions and beliefs into the church. Most people are not aware of the pagan origins of some of the traditions they have concerning Christmas and Easter. Being that they do not know and do not put any significance or meaning into the traditions make them pretty much mute. To celebrate the first coming of our messiah is something we all should do, To confine it to one day a year is actually kind of sad. We should celebrate Christ’s first coming every day for he brought us the teachings of the divine spirit and he became the Holy and Sacred sacrifice for all mankind when he died on the cross. He brought a message of peace and understanding to mankind, he preached to us of hope and of the kingdom to come. If that isn’t enough for us to celebrate then we are in far poorer shape than I thought.
We have far more to fear from our consumerism and greed during the holidays than the fact Christmas had some pagan influences in its adoption by the church. Rituals are just an act we do in honor or in celebration but greed is something that comes from within our hearts. So worry little about the origins of Christmas and more about the spirit in which you celebrate it.
I wish you all a Merry Christmas
Christmas is around the corner and the shopping malls are busy
All the advertisement and Christmas specials are enough to make you dizzy
Bank accounts are drying up and credit cards are getting fat on the gifts we buy, Seems we all lost the true meaning of Christmas and we don’t know why.
Consumerism has replaced the feelings of family and of community across the land, Happiness is now measured by what you receive and not what you already have on hand.
Togetherness and fellowship has become ideals of our distant past, We traded those things for gadgets and toys that we know wont last.
Compassion and Charity though still present have become a rare sight, On this note I wish you a merry Christmas and a very good night
Merry Christmas All
Friends, The extended part of your family are an important part of your life and your emotional wellbeing. Having true friends is similar to having adopted brothers and sisters, They are there for you when you need them as well as when you don’t. They don’t judge you by your looks or by the gossip they may have heard, they see you for who you really are. They are sometimes even closer than your real family due to they are the ones you tell your secrets too.
They wont abandon you when times are tough and they will help you live it up when things are amazingly great. They walk in parallel with you for the most part of your life and if they stray away they always come back. They are your leaning post when your weak and your sounding board when you need to vent or just rant. They never ask for nothing in return for their friendship even though they know you would give them the world if you could.
They will either stand with you when they know your wrong or try to help you see the error in your ways. They wont care if your not perfect and they will love you for what you truly are. Sometimes they may fail you for they too are only human after all. But even after failing you they will strive to make things right once again.
Friends, True friends are far and few between, They are the jewel that shines in your heart as well as in your mind. They are one of the great gifts one can receive in life.
Peace and Truth to all
Raymond J. Barbier