Encouraging your Discouraged Friend

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There would be time that someone would call you, ask for your help and encouragement. He/she would entail every detail to you and he/she just can’t hold the heaviness of his/her heart and cry it out. And you don’t have any idea how to ease that pain. Only being emphatic is the  closest way to atleast carry off the burden. All you could do is to listen to his/her story and tap his/her back and share an undying encouragement.

It’s not easy to see someone in trouble especially if he/she is close to your heart. But be with him/her in his/her journey. Don’t leave him/her in such a time he/she needs someone like you who’ll remind him/her of what he/she had gone through over the past years.
If you have a friend who needs you now, don’t give up on him/her. Help him/her to rise up above on his/her…

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Random thoughts 8-7-2014

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IMG_1375Life is but a short walk through a garden, so enjoy the view and be kind to the other visitors. We all have been blessed with a chance to experience life, yet many of us do not realize the value of this gift and there are those they don’t recognize the rights of others to live. Such a shame that this late in the game we still have to deal with fear,hate and inequality. With all our advances in the sciences and in education we still are yet  immature emotionally or lack the mental capacity to overcome our fear of differences and the unknown.

Life is short, why do we waste so much time fighting over land and resources that belong to all living things not just one person or nation. I know we need the governmental structures so to keep order, but I can not see why we can not work together for the common good. We allow greed and lust  of power to control our decisions and our hearts way too much. We need to embrace equality,compassion and try to see the whole picture instead of living focused only on our little bubble.

Let us all put our differences aside and work together for the common good of every living thing. Humanity when it works together can be a very creative and unstoppable force.

Ray Barbier

Random Thoughts on Stereotypes and Relationships.

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005The stereotypes society has created for male and female serve a purpose but in the end cause more conflicts within relationships and create so misconceptions bout both sexes. Not all of us fit into what the norm sees as perfect men or women. Humans are diverse and people are not always going to go by the textbook when it comes to their personalities and traits. We come in all shapes, colors and flavors so to speak, the different life experiences we each have helps mold us into the person we are today and what we may become later in life.

So many relationships go bad because of preconceived ideals of what one mate or the other is supposed to be like. We all have this illusive image of what a perfect mate and relationship is supposed to be like and it tends to become as a monkey wrench in the works of love.  Luckily most of the time our mate has some of the traits we wanted in a partner or we wouldn’t have found them attractive, but we must learn to accept the traits within them that we don’t enjoy as much as long as they are not unacceptable ones like  infidelity and abuse. We should forgive our partner for their mistakes, but we are not supposed to allow them to repeatedly hurt us with such actions.

We must throw away our perfect mate ideals and mentality because a mate is only as perfect as you wish to see them as. Love them for the things within them that brings you happiness and try to forgive and tolerate the things that don’t really thrill you about them. Just remember there are many things about yourself that your mate must love and tolerate as well.  Usually in time both mates change and learn to find the common ground between them and work together in harmony if they accept each other as is and not try to mold one another into people that they are not meant to be..

Love relationships are a lot like friendships, you learn to love your true friends for who and what they are for good or ill and they learn to love you in the same way.. So in love it’s the same thing just you have a lot more complications such as living with each other all the time and the physical aspects of such relationships.  But for a love relationship to last there has to be a friendship within it as well, without the friendship all is there is lust or physical attraction and that never lasts for long. So try to get to know your mate and keep the friendship alive within the relationship.

Ray Barbier.


Time to step away from the character I have played

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rayrayd_edited-1To much self, not enough of everybody else. Too much of ego for most of us to let go. Me, myself and I are in the way and it makes me blind. Blind of the truth around me and the connection we all have to everything. Too much worry, anger and paranoia within the self-centered man I seem to be and its time to put him aside for the  person who I truly am.

Time to return to who I was as a child, to the person I am hidden beneath the conditioning of society and the scars of life. Remember the lessons learned and let go of the pain and confusion we accumulated through the years. Too much mental and emotional garbage we have collected through life experiences.  Time to empty my inner recycle bin and go about my way free of such useless and painful thoughts and/or emotions. Free of such things.

Each morning I awake is but a new blank page for me to fill with my life’s journey, yet another day to grow and change. The pages written on the days prior are but the history of which choices I made and directions I have taken. Though I can not change where I have been or what I have done I still can change direction and my destination.

Time to return to who I was meant to be and let go of the egotistical side of me. Time to become who I was meant to be and not what this world has tried to make me into. Time to change my direction and my desired destination. Time to set Goals that are true to who I am and not those that society dictates is normal and desirable. Time to let go of what I am expected to be by others and be who I truly am.

Time to be who God created me to be and time to step away from the character I have played in this worlds masquerade. Time to be set free, time to accept what has been given to me.

 We spend so much time trying to be what others expect us to be we lose the person we truly are. Sometimes we seek out the treasures of this world forgetting where or true treasures lay.

Ray Barbier

Without the initial spark we will never see a flame.

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EarthOnce I had a person say they wished they could change the world, though that is an admirable goal it is one most would find impossible to carry out. Though it seems like something that is near impossible there is always a possibility one person can change the world or at least the way the world thinks. We have seen in history great statesman, politicians , religious leaders and visionaries make considerable changes in the world and in the minds of the people. One voice can make a difference, all change starts within  ourselves and then it radiates outward towards all around us. How we act, react and what we say has a large impact on our world even if it’s in a small way or localized area. If that one voice inspires others to join in then change begins to expand and can enact a change globally. In a nut shell it takes someone to start a movement for change in order for change to come about. Without the initial spark we will never see a flame. Become what you  believe we all should be like, live by example and then others will follow suit. To preach of a peaceful world or life but be in turmoil yourself is self-defeating. Lead and live by example and make change happen if not in the world at least in your part of it. Be an  agent of change and not  an inactive bystander in life.

This world needs more free thinkers, visionaries and promoters of peace and compassion.

Raymond Barbier

We go running through life tripping over and passing up many of the blessings

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016Life is so temporary in the physical universe, we have but a small grain of sand from the hour-glass of time to spend. We tend to waste a lot of our time forgetting how tiny our piece of time is .We waste so much time feeding our useless EGOS and feeding our petty and temporary desires we tend to leave very little time to appreciate the really important and wondrous things in life. We take love for granted along with the blessing of having life itself. We take those we care about for granted as well.

We go running through life tripping over and passing up many of the blessings we have been given. We don’t even see them because we are so much in a hurry and when we do we quickly glance and move on with little thought and without even being thankful. It’s a shame how fast we live our lives, how we speed through life and miss the wonderful thing called life and those we share it with..

God has given us this life not only to serve him but also to enjoy the blessings he has given us within it. It is a sad thing we fail to appreciate many of those gifts and miss most of them because we run right by them blindly. So remember where your strength comes from, remember where your blessings originate and be thankful for both those you have found and those you have missed due to running too fast through life. We need to slow down and appreciate the life God has blessed us with, we need to open our eyes and see the blessings all around us and show thanks for them all.


If we have such a short time to live, then why do we rush through it so blindly and miss out on all the blessings within it? Do you think its time we slow down and enjoy the ride or shall we continue to race to our life’s end.? ~ Raymond Barbier

This world can keep us so sidetracked and confused

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SN_arrowWho’s Interests are you serving? Who’s will are you following? Is it Gods or is it your own? If it is to Glorify yourself or to gain wealth and or worldly possession along with position or power then more than likely you are serving your own interests and will. This  is not to say that God would not want you to have a comfortable lifestyle or some kind of position etc., but the point is how you got there. Did you follow his will and get rewarded with these blessings or did you put God on the back burner and sought out these things because of greed and lust for power etc.

To surrender to God’s will  isn’t an easy task, most of us are so used to being our own boss per se and that makes it hard for us to let go of control. This world also breeds fear and also it is wrought with perils and strife which makes one so overwhelmed its hard to focus on what is really important at times.  This world can keep us so sidetracked and confused we have little time to dedicate to prayer or doing our Fathers will.

Riches and possessions of this world are perishable and temporary just like any position or power you can gain in this world. The riches of heaven are forever. We should walk the path of life with God as our guide and stop stumbling and wandering amongst the wolves . For he is the shepherd and we are his sheep, he will keep us safe from harm as long as we follow him.


Walk with peace and love within your hearts, Live with Christ within your every thought.

Raymond Barbier.

Have love and compassion for those in need

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EarthBeing humans we tend to forget how short and temporary life is. We live each day as if we have forever which makes us forget how precious life and the people we love are. We allow petty differences, arguments and selfishness to get in the way of the joy and happiness we can have and deserve. Stop worrying over your past mistakes, as long as you learned from them then forgive and forget. The same goes for the mistakes of others, you never know how important other people are until they are gone.

Live for the moment, seize the day but remember to do it in a way you don’t leave those you love out of it. Enjoy the smallest and the simplest things in life along with those not so small or simple. Let go of the conditioning you have received through this world and embrace who you truly are within. Enjoy each minute of life and each second of time you have with those you care for since life is quite short and fleeting. Have love and compassion towards others and make a positive impact on your household , community and if possible the world. With the technology, sciences and ability to transport large quantities of food it is amazing we still have people starving in our world and lifetime. So many countries have wasted surpluses of food that could go to feed the hungry, so much building material available to help improve the lives of the homeless and hopeless.

Have love and compassion for those in need, use what influence you have to help eradicate poverty and starvation. Maybe if all our governments would get over their petty political differences and could focus on the welfare of humanity in a whole they could put an end to the imbalance of food distribution across our planet. Maybe if they would start pouring money into building homes, bringing the poverty-stricken areas into the age of modern farming techniques and equipment they could help end hunger.

For life is precious regardless of its origin and no human being should suffer from lack of food, medicine or adequate housing. Just as no creäture should be hunted into extinction. The shame is those few in power allow such things such as greed, lust of power and political differences to stand in the way of doing what is right. And even when they try to do something good they can not get beyond their political differences long enough to either agree or to make an honest effort.

So its best not to look towards the government nor to the wealthy to make the changes necessary or to really make any effort. It is the common people, working class and below that will have to make the differences and will need to push those in power to follow suit through example and through peaceful means. It is us that have the desire to change the world for the better and not for the better profit margin or political position. .

Life may be short and we may not always have the power to make change alone, but together our many voices crying out and our actions can make a positive change.

Ray Barbier

Evolutionary Thinking

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Here I am.

I had to do some evolutionary thinking today. I had to call upon my Evolutionary Thinker.

My Evolutionary Thinker  is My Higher mind.

The purpose of Evolutionary Thinking is to be an Evolved Individual.

By evolved, I mean that I  mature  into  the future with a different set of  values. Evolutionary thinking comes as a result of incorporating  a ‘Contemporary View of Traditional Values.

A contemporary  view is a fresher angle on life in all its mysteries and nuances. A contemporary  view is  understanding that there has to be a new way understand some traditional spiritual principles.

I like to call it looking at things through my eyes and not just with them. Yes , there is a difference. When I look at things through my eyes , I’m actually looking at life as my Evolutionary Thinker sees.Thats the contemporary view.You have to grow into that type…

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Thought of the Day-2/1/2014

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003Do not worry about the sins of others, think only of the sins you commit. For we are each responsible for our own sins, not the sins of others.  This is not to say one shouldn’t try to help others in need of assistance or guidance, just that we shouldn’t judge or condemn others for sins since we too ourselves are sinners. Preaching of hellfire and damnation only causes fear and chases away those who need salvation. We are all in need of salvation of course, just some know of the way to salvation, some do not and some just are too scared of making the leap of faith. I am not saying we shouldn’t make others aware of the consequences of sin, just we must be preachers, teachers and messengers of the good news.

Salvation is the name of the game, not condemnation.

Ray Barbier