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What I don’t like about myself I try to change and what I like about myself I try to improve.

004Sometimes I let what other people think of me bother me more than it should. If someone likes me or not is something I can not control and knowing that makes me see that they are going to think what they may no matter what I do or say. So do I really care if others lie me or not, well I would be lying if I said no, but it isn’t as important to me as it used to be for sure. All I can do is to try to be someone who I would like and try to be someone I could be proud of being. IF I am neither of those then I have a problem, I may not always love myself but what I don’t like about myself I try to change and what I like about myself I try to improve as well. It is an ever going challenge to improve oneself and to grow emotionally and spiritually.

Be who you are and make who you are someone you could respect and love.

Ray Barbier

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We do not always see the opportunities that surround us

IMG_1077The power of thought be it positive or negative  can affect the body as well as the mind. If you go around with a negative attitude it attracts more of the same. There is no guarantee if you are a positive person that you wont have to deal with some negativity, but you will not face as much as someone with a negative attitude. With so many books out there claiming they have secrets that will lead  you to better life and all that your heart desires, the only one getting what they want most of the time with those books is the author and the publisher. Not saying the don’t have some kind of truth to what they are saying, usually its all common sense or plain positive thinking along with visualization. Now I am not saying don’t buy those books or that they don’t work, I am just saying a lot of what they teach is out there for free if you look hard enough.

One easy way to be happy and have all you desire is to be more realistic in what you desire and expect of yourself and others. Though most of us would not be happy with that scenario so that leaves us wanting for a shortcut or easy way to reach our goals and find happiness in life. Reality is, there is no real shortcuts out there unless you have some rich uncle or you are a con artists or something along those lines. Hard work is always needed to achieve your goals, saving and investing wisely also helps. The one thing I have learned it is hard to get rich owning your own business bit its next to impossible to get rich working for someone else.

But is it really money, possessions and or social status we are needing or wanting? Will they really bring that happiness we think they will or will they just temporarily give us a happy high and then we find ourselves back where we started or worse? Financial stability always helps but to be rich is only having way more than we need. Sure I would love to have enough right now to retire and live like I do for the rest of my life. I am happy being a lower middle-class person and I don’t see any real need for me to be a millionaire. Give me a roof over my head a good vehicle, bills paid and 3 square meals a day with maybe a bit left over in the bank and I am one happy man. But that is me and I know there are those that want the moon and everything else they can get in their lifetime.

So does visualization and positive thinking work? Yes, but to the magnitude that some claim, probably not as often as we all would like. Sure you can attract things through positivity and visualization,  you can also get a lot of things through faith and prayer as well. Sometimes it is just the matter of opening your eyes to the opportunities around you. For most of us we do not always see the opportunities that surround us nor the gifts God has laid by our feet because we are too focused on the stress and worry of life to see them.

Positive thinking, visualization, faith and prayer all can bring you some happiness and even some wealth. but if you forget where your blessings and help comes  from (GOD) they can always be taken away just as fast.

Ray Barbier

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Thinking, talking and acting out negativity only attracts a lot of the same

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Negativity, one of the main sources of our unhappiness and one of the hardest roadblocks to living a successful life. Thinking, talking and acting out negativity only attracts a lot of the same into your life. You hear a lot about positive thinking but very little is said about avoiding negative thinking. We must train ourselves not to think negative thoughts or to let them manifest into words or actions. When we are negative not only does that attract negative things but it also repels all the positive things coming our way. we need to remove as much of the negativity in our thinking as possible and begin thinking positively as possible. We should never act out negativity for it not only creates a negative  situation for ourselves but it also influences those around us.

What and how you think becomes how and what your reality is.
Raymond Barbier

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You are responsible for the happiness or negative feelings in your life.

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Positive thinking, Visualization and many other techniques that are sold as pathways to the life you desire actually can work but usually don’t. It isn’t because those ideas are wrong, it mainly lies within the mind of the person trying to use them. There is no way any amount of positive thinking or visualization can work if your mind is full of constant negative or obstructive thoughts.  We are programmed through out our lives with both positive and negative concepts which remain in our sub conscious mind until we label them untrue and mark them for deletion. some are so deep-rooted it is almost impossible to rid ourselves of them. We are what we believe and think that we are and we can not become anything but what we limit ourselves to be. We also have some ability to effect those around us through our negative or positive thoughts though it is a very limited effect.

To bring positivity to your life you must put positivity out into the world around you and limit the negative thoughts and emotions within. Beside the effect your negativity has on others it has a great effect upon your health and your ability to function in life. Being it is almost impossible to be completely free of negativity you at least want to keep a balance between both positive and negative (1:1 ratio). If you can keep the balance right then positive thinking, visualization and other techniques will work and bring good results. The bottom line is that all good and bad in your life starts from within yourself. No one but you are responsible for the happiness or negative feelings in your life. Yes others may do you wrong, hurt you and even cause problems in your life but it is you that chooses to allow it to control your state of mind. You are the one that chooses in what way you react to such situations and how long it will effect your life.

Forgiveness is one of the greatest tools in ridding yourself of unwanted negative emotional baggage. Forgive those who have done you wrong so you can let go of the pain that is associated with the memory. Forgiveness does far more for the one who gives it than the one that receives it in the end. Far as hatred or not liking an individual because of some trait or behavior that bothers you, you must realize sometimes that trait or behavior is one you also dislike in yourself. Try to be understanding and realize you are also an imperfect being that displays traits and behaviors‘ that some one may not like in turn. This makes it a bit easier to accept the faults in others because you can see how you also have faults within your own character.

 

 

I may not always be right, but I am always seeking the right answers.

Raymond Barbier

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Love thyself, be yourself and be true to yourself.

IMG_1078We can not be liked or loved by every person we meet, even though each of us are unique in our own way we also share common traits with others. Some people may find a common chord with you and be a part of your journey through life and then there are those no matter how hard you may try they will always see you as an outcast or a joke. that is just how this life is and there is little one can do about that fact, just learn to accept the gift of friendship from those that you find and forgive and dismiss the ones that are not yours to call friend. It may be nice to belong and feel loved by everyone you meet but unfortunately the possibility of such is nothing but a pipe dream.  Also if you try too hard to be liked and to belong you usually wind up pushing away those who could be your friends as well as making a fool of yourself unknowingly before everyone you meet. Best to learn to love and accept yourself for what you are and worry not about the thoughts and opinions of those around you. For if you become a person whom you like and can live with everyday then usually you will find that others will follow in liking you and accepting you for what and who you really are. Be yourself and be true to yourself so that you do not mislead yourself or others. Being human I myself have many faults I wish to hide away from the public eye but they always find a way to rear their ugly little heads for others to see from time to time. So I have learned to accept my shortcomings but not to give up on correcting them. No one person is perfect and the grass on the other side of the fence only seems to be greener than yours. To be really true to yourself you must face both your good and your bad points in your personality. Far as the bad points the first step in overcoming or controlling them is to accept the fact they exist. You can not fix what you do not believe is broken as well as you can not improve what you see as unchangeable as well. For there is no bad trait that can not be either improved or overcame through perseverance and the desire to better ones self. The biggest enemy to self-improvement is ones self-doubt, we all have it just some of us have more than others. We must learn to overcome the fear of failure and the fear of change in order to move forward on the path of self-improvement. In each one of us is the power and strength to become more than we could even dream of becoming. It isn’t all positive thinking but to be positive is one of the many keys to self improvement and success. Besides positive thinking one must be willing to act upon the positive thoughts and work towards making them a part of reality. To think positive alone will only bring you small results if not just set you up for a fall in the end. Just thinking about taking your first step does not start the journey, it is taking the first step and the risks that come from moving forward. Belief in something has a lot of power but putting that belief into a physical action has far more power to enact change. The faith of the mustard seed would be useless if it wasn’t for it following through with that faith by acting. Without action there is no chance for reaction, even visualization in its self is an action though limited in its possibilities of reaction without some physical action to support it.

 

Love thyself, be yourself and be true to yourself.

Be positive and act upon faith as well as your positive thinking.

 

Peace to all

Raymond Barbier

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