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by | March 9, 2013 · 3:28 pm

what we make them is our own choice

008Sometimes I think we get so wrapped up in what we don’t have, what we think we want and how we believe things should be that we lose sight of the things we have been blessed with. It isn’t what you want or what you do not have that matters it is the things you have been blessed with that is important. If you neglect those you love or ignore the blessings you have you may wind up losing them all.

If you think there is greener grass somewhere else then you need to wake up and see your grass is only in need of some maintenance. No relationship be it in love, business or friendship will last if it’s neglected or if its taken for granted. Love needs to be nurtured in order for it to grow and for it to last. If we all paid more attention to that which we have been blessed with we would see we really don’t need anything else to be happy. If we can get beyond the illusions of the grass looking greener in the next yard we may notice our own lawns are what we made them and what we make them is our own choice. True it takes two to make a relationship to work but it takes one to make change and inspire change in the other. Someone has to make the first move and work hard to improve the relationship. Usually if one cares and shows it the other will follow if there was love there to begin with.

Don’t let the glitter, fancy lights and other distractions pull you away from and steal from you the blessings and gifts God has given you.

Ray Barbier

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by | November 18, 2012 · 9:53 am

What I don’t like about myself I try to change and what I like about myself I try to improve.

004Sometimes I let what other people think of me bother me more than it should. If someone likes me or not is something I can not control and knowing that makes me see that they are going to think what they may no matter what I do or say. So do I really care if others lie me or not, well I would be lying if I said no, but it isn’t as important to me as it used to be for sure. All I can do is to try to be someone who I would like and try to be someone I could be proud of being. IF I am neither of those then I have a problem, I may not always love myself but what I don’t like about myself I try to change and what I like about myself I try to improve as well. It is an ever going challenge to improve oneself and to grow emotionally and spiritually.

Be who you are and make who you are someone you could respect and love.

Ray Barbier

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by | November 3, 2012 · 9:34 am

Life Is So Wonderful!!

flower01I am sitting here writing this, in the early morning,….and should have been asleep hours ago!  But i cannot help but think, how very precious and wonderful life is!  I am just so thankful to be alive today, and everyday! I know that a lot of bad things, can and do happen, in this life.  If it were too comfortable here, then we would not want to go to Heaven!  This is just a passing through place, until we get to our REAL, permanent home.  Until the time that the Lord, calls us home,…we can make the very best of life, right here.  It starts with having a positive attitude, and a will to find happiness, in the simplest of things.  If we just look at the wonderful things that God, has made, in His nature,…we can see how really beautiful that this world is!  Also, with all of the loving, and kind people, that He puts in out lives.  My grand baby’s smile, makes me so very happy!  Or even our many critters, that we have.  Just watching them, brings me such joy!  All of these things, i count as blessings!

It does not take much to bring about happiness.  Just look around, my friends!  Each and every new day, brings about such wonderful blessings!  Another day to enjoy God’s wonders, and all of His love!  Have a wonderful day!

Cathy Ann Adams

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by | October 31, 2012 · 7:55 am

Cherish the blessing of having good friends

dd43853 Friendship, Something most of us take for granted and few understand its power. God gave us the ability to love one another not only as family or spouses but also as neighbors and friends. The strength we gain in friendship is a gift from God. Friendship and Fellowship is close cousins if not siblings for to have true fellowship we must have friendships within it.  God knowing we alone are weak, gave us all the different types of relationships so we can help one another through life.

RBM001122 Friends are there for one another through thick and thin, they support one another and are not afraid to tell each other the truth, Nor are they angry at each other for doing so. True friends are inseparable and are compassionate, forgiving and understanding with each other. Friends are the support network outside of the family and the church. Some friends are considered as family and are also a part of the fellowship within the church as well.

Cherish the blessing of having good friends for it is hard to make it through life without them.

Ray Barbier

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by | October 28, 2012 · 1:17 pm

Life is a short thing to experience

bnf0422 Your heart can guide you rightly and it also can lead you wrong, Temper your heart  with the mind  and use the heart to empower the mind. Be humble and put the ego to the back of your mind. Be compassionate and understanding so that when it is time for your judgment , you will be judged in the same manner. Be at peace with yourself so you are able to find peace with everyone and everything else. Remember life is precious and the time we have to live is short in the scheme of things. Live in love and love to live for love is the greatest power besides faith that we have been blessed with. A love with conditions is not love, it is just a complicated emotional relationship.

bnf0424Forgiveness is easy to give, therefore forgive totally so both you and the one who you forgave can move forward.  Forgiveness frees you from the hurt and  the anger you feel and releases the one you forgive from their guilt as well. Being that life is so short I myself can not see any reason to hold on to a grudge for any length of time. It consumes way too much energy and tends to make the one who carries it unhappy and/or grumpy.

p10053Cherish each moment you have with those you love and care about for there is no guarantee that you or they will be here tomorrow.  Get off your computer, tablet and put away the game system. Get out and live life instead of hiding away in your house so much. Balance the time at home and out in the world, for you don’t want to waste time nor miss out on life since life is a short thing to experience.  Most of all remember the old saying: “Life is what you make it” and then go out and make life as complete and happy as you can.

Get out and live life, live it to the fullest and do so with compassion, understanding and love.

Ray Barbier

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by | October 23, 2012 · 5:58 pm

Things like fellowship, friendship, family and love

dd43853 We only have a short time upon this planet to live and enjoy life. We should be thankful for each moment we were blessed enough to have and enjoy. When you really look at how short a lifetime is, it makes a lot of what we think is important seem so shallow or insignificant in the end. We pursue wealth, popularity, power and the temporary pleasures of the flesh. they all are temporary and usually leaves one lacking in happiness and wanting for more. Things like fellowship, friendship, family and love are things that can last a lifetime and beyond in most cases. What will all the possession, wealth and power give you ? Will those things last a lifetime and will they ever satisfy your thirst for love and happiness?

It is Family, friends and the experiences we have in life that will always be with us, be it in physical form or within our hearts and/or minds.

Ray Barbier

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by | September 18, 2012 · 10:32 am

Rare Friends

English: me and my friend

I am so very glad, and thankful, that i have had people who love me, and who have stood by me.   It may not sound like much,…but it is very important to me.  People that have believed in me enough, to have urged me on to try things that they thought i would be good at.  People who could see things in me, that i could never see in myself.  I have many such people in my life. My husband being the very most one.  Also my family, and some that are friends.  The very reason i am writing this to blog now, is because of such a good friend.  He believed i could write about heartfelt things.  He urged me on to try it.  I was so very afraid!  I have very much confidence for others, but not so much for myself.  With his urging,…i did try.  He also urges others to try, and they too, are beginning to write.  I will never be a great writer, and i fear that i ramble quite a bit, but because of a friend’s belief in me,….i try!

It is a wonderful thing, a miracle really, to have a friend believe in you enough, to urge you on, or spur you on, as in my case.  Spur, is probably more accurate for me, since i am as stubborn as a mule, sometimes!!  My friend, would also agree that it is true!!  Yet,…he accepts me as i am, with all of my faults, and still urges me to try to do things.  Sometimes i try, just so that i do not let him down.  When someone is a true friend,…they want to see you succeed.  They want happiness for you, and all good things.  This is the type of friend that he is.  Such a rare gift from God!  Your family, will usually love, and stand by you, and want to see you succeed,…but it is a rare gift from God, to have a friend treat you, as if you were their own blood relation.  This is the type of friend that he is.  I am truly blessed!!  I also want my friend, to have all the happiness, and good things, that i feel he deserves, for what he gives to so many others.  When my friend reads this,…he will know who i am talking about.  I also want to say to my friend,…Thank you for all that you do for me, and others….and that i love you very much, and i thank God that you are my friend!!

Cathy Adams

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by | June 26, 2012 · 4:41 pm

Each time, the answer would be no! I was committed.

When i was young,….i never gave much thought about being obligated, or committed. I was carefree, and much like a free spirit,…or at least that’s what others have told me. Even when I married at nineteen,…i am not really sure

The Unequal Marriage

I thought about the seriousness of being married. I did have the belief though, that once you were married,…you were married.

It was very rough going, the first few months of marriage. There were times that i wanted to go back home, and be carefree again, and a free spirit. I had even discussed with my parents, about returning home. My parents always let me know, that i would be welcome to come back home, but they also told me to give it a lot of thought first. So i would, and i would always decide to stay, because there was just something that would not let me give up. I could not just walk away. I was committed to my marriage!

In the years to come, there would be some rough spots. Times, when i wanted to throw in the towel, and quit. Each time, i would examine my life, and ask myself if i could really give up, and walk away. Each time, the answer would be no! I was committed.

Now, it has been nearly thirty-five years, that I have been married, and i find i am more committed than ever, to my marriage. But, it has not only been myself, that has been committed, it has also been my husband. We have worked together, side by side all of these years, to be committed to each other. It is as if we both share one heart, and one mind. We are two halves, that form one whole. It is such a gift from God, to have this kind of commitment. This kind of love! I thank God, for the wonderful gift He gave us.

My prayer is that everyone may also have the gift of love and commitment in their lives.

Cathy Ann Adams

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by | May 10, 2012 · 6:49 pm

Friends: What a mighty small word, to be such a powerful force in our lives

Friends, 2003, oil on canvas, 36" by 48&q...

Friends, 2003, oil on canvas, 36″ by 48″. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Today,….as i sit here and ponder all of the many blessings that have been bestowed upon me, i am thanking the Lord for my wonderful friends.  I am often amazed at how they have happened into my life.  Some by choice, and some quite by accident.  All so different, yet somehow alike.  But all, such wonderful blessings!!

The Lord works in such mysterious ways.  He puts people into our lives that come as strangers, but become transformed into family.  That in itself, is a miracle.  Not related by blood, but by love, and in spirit.
I am also so thankful, that they have allowed me to share their lives, and become a part of their family.  That too, is a blessing.  To love, and to be loved without a care as to skin color, age, weight, or background.  Just to be accepted, and loved for who you are.  Friends that lift you up, and encourage you.  Friends that give you good advice, and who stay by your side, even when you are not so nice to be around.  Friends who share your joys, and your sorrows.  Friends who want to see you succeed, and are so happy when you do.  Friends that allow you to share the same things in their lives.
Friends.  What a mighty small word, to be such a powerful force in our lives.  Friends,…equal to family.  Equal to love.  I am so very blessed!!  Thank you, Lord!!
Cathy Ann Adams
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by | March 5, 2012 · 8:50 pm

Things seem more complicated than they really are

mypic2006bWhy does is seem we have a tendency as humans to make things seem more complicated than they really are. We dissect every situation, emotion and experience only to overlook the simple truths that could be seen by looking at it in whole. Sometime an apple is just an apple and an orange isn’t a melon. Yeah sure sometimes there is hidden meanings in things but most of the time things are what they are and you don’t have t dissect it to see that. All the wasted energy and the stress created by the frustration of not finding the non-existent hidden meaning only distracts us from the truth we seek. Sometimes I don’t even think we even know what it is we are searching for and other times I think we are just so wrapped up in the process to see its unnecessary.

In relationships we tend to do this when the relationship fails, we tear apart every memory and emotion trying to find out what went wrong. Sometimes relationships die and other times there wasn’t a real relationship there to start with. A lot of times it was more of a physical attraction and not love that brought the people together and physical attraction is fickle and can disappear almost as fast as it appeared. To be honest who really cares who is to blame or why it happened, it happened and that is the end of it. Move on and find a new relation to be in and hope it isn’t just one based on physical attraction alone.

If you try to dissect every situation and become obsessed with finding the hidden meaning or reason you are only letting situation distract you from what is important. Life is way to short to make everything in it complicated or to meditate on every situation you are in. There are always situations that are complicated and need to be dissected to find the truth but they are far and few in-between. Life is simpler than we perceive it to be, and the true trick to being happy in life is t keep it as simple as possible.

“Simple Simon may have been a simple man but he also was a happy and content man.”

Raymond Barbier

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