Self forgiveness is something that very few of us ever practice, forgiving one’s self seems to be a much harder task than to forgive others. Why does it seem that to forgive some one is much easier than to forgive our own mistakes and transgressions? For some reason we tend to be much harder on ourselves than we are on other people. We must realize that like everyone else we are not perfect and therefore we will make mistakes and should learn from those mistakes but not allow those mistakes to control our lives. We can focus on our positive attributes and our achievements instead of on our mistakes and our negative aspects. Mistakes being a part of the natural learning process that we all go through and they are beneficial in learning what we should not do. So making mistakes is something that we all must face in this life that we live.
Guilt which is an aftereffect of making a mistake is suppose to be a short lived emotion to help us remember that we had made that mistake. Guilt is not supposed to be a lifelong emotion and if it becomes one it changes from a beneficial emotion into a destructive emotion. Suffering Guilt for a long period of time is devastating to a persons self-esteem and their personal happiness. Accept the mistakes that you have made, then learn from them and try not to repeat them is about all one can do. Everybody makes mistakes and everyone faces guilt from time to time and that my friend is what being human is all about.
Well till next time
Peace R. Barbier